Alone among all

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Sherry Turkle "Alone Together: Why We Expect More From Technology and Less From Each Other."

According to the American sociologist Sherry Turkle , the media called " social " are actually means to be alone while connected to many people . A young man of 16 who works mainly through "texting " noted with some regret : "One day , one day, but probably not now, I would like to learn how to have a conversation. " The youth moved the conversation to the connection. When you have 3000 "friends" on Facebook , you can obviously not be true conversation. You're just about to sign yourself a guaranteed audience. Electronic conversations are concise , quick and sometimes brutal . Human conversations , face to face, are different in nature : they evolve more slowly, are full of nuances and we learn patience. In conversation, we are called to see things from another point of view, a necessary condition for empathy and altruism.

Many people are now willing to talk to machines that seem to worry them. Researchers are inventing social robots, designed to be companions for the elderly and children. Sherry Turkle says he saw an elderly person telling a robot baby seal and tell him about the loss of her child . The robot seemed to look her in the eyes and follow the conversation . The woman said in comforted . Individualism and lead it to an impoverishment of human relationships and solitude as we can no longer find compassion in a robot? We seem increasingly attracted to technologies that provide the illusion of the company without the requirements of human relationships. And we may not have sympathy for ourselves and manage the joys and sorrows of life in the bubble of egocentricity .

People often say " nobody listens to me." Facebook and Twitter are now offering their automatic listeners. In fact, it has been shown that social media are mainly ways to promote yourself.
Curiously, the expansion of these pseudo human relations goes with a fear of loneliness. People are now afraid to be alone with themselves . Left to themselves, they feel the need to connect. According to Turkle , they are now past the stage " I feel something , I'll share it by sending a message , " the impulse "I want to feel something , I need to send a text message . "
Not having the ability to be alone with yourself, we look to other people, not to establish a relationship and selfless intéressser us what they are and their situation, but for use as spare parts to support our personalities increasingly fragile . We believe that being constantly "in touch" will make us feel less alone . This is the reverse is true. If we are unable to be alone, we are far more likely to suffer from loneliness. An investigation revealed that an ordinary American felt a deep sense of loneliness once a fortnight on average. According to Turkle , "If we do not teach our children to be alone, they know that suffer from loneliness. "

We must also renew used conversations and provide the opportunity in the workplace and in families. Those who often attend conferences and meetings know that it is often during " coffee breaks " , the conversations and the most fruitful interactions take place.

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